Gifts not desired: 3 ways to handle unwanted or inappropriate presents from others

Social media platforms are afloat of postings astir gifts received but not desired. And pinch graduation and wedding season conscionable astir upon america — positive Mother's Day and Father's Day adjacent down — nan measurement of some giftgiving and nan challenges posed by definite gifts whitethorn increase. 

So what should group do erstwhile they person a gift they don't want aliases need? 

And, by nan aforesaid token, what should group do erstwhile they're not judge if their chosen gift will beryllium received good by family aliases friends? 

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Fox News Digital asked experts for insights and thoughts astir this thorny etiquette issue. 

1. Remember nan intent of gifting 

"A gift, by definition, is thing that is ‘for’ nan recipient. When I springiness thing genuinely ‘for’ personification else, it is without anticipation aliases benefits to me, nan giver," Tennessee-based Kimberly Best told Fox News Digital.

"Gifts are meant to beryllium a show of appreciation and love." (iStock)

Best is owner, laminitis and CEO of Best Conflict Solutions, LLC.

Contingencies attached to a gift mean it's not a gift astatine all, said Best. 

Rather, "it's a tool." 

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She added, "I propose that we see why we are gifting. Is it for us, nan giver – aliases for them, the recipient?" 

2. Be appreciative, supra all

"Show appreciation for nan gift, moreover if it's not what you wanted," Nicole Moore, a California-based narration master and certified life coach, told Fox News Digital. 

Remember, she said, "that gifts are not a fixed aliases thing to beryllium expected. They must ever beryllium treated arsenic a bully astonishment to beryllium appreciated." 

One etiquette master said a gift should ever beryllium received pinch gratitude, moreover if it is not precisely what a personification whitethorn person wanted. (iStock)

When this is forgotten, a personification is behaving successful an entitled manner, she said. 

"Gifts are meant to beryllium a show of appreciation and love," she said.

Laura Windsor, nan U.K.-based laminitis of nan Laura Windsor Etiquette Academy, shared a akin sentiment. 

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"Disappointment and distaste should beryllium avoided astatine each costs," she said. 

Giving a gift is "a time-honored measurement of showing someone's affection, gratitude aliases esteem," said Windsor. 

"If nan gift comes pinch a gift receipt, it is codification for, ‘You tin speech it pinch thing else, if you truthful wish.'"

For anyone who is hesitant astir a gift, including a gift receipt is simply a bully move, said Windsor.

"If nan gift comes pinch a gift receipt, it is codification for, ‘You tin speech it pinch thing else, if you truthful wish,’" she said. 

3. Communicate decently if there's an issue

The cardinal to declining a gift that whitethorn beryllium unwanted is to beryllium thankful for it, said Moore.

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She suggested thanking nan gift-giver "for taking nan clip to find a gift and past fto them cognize that while you admit nan gesture, you'd really emotion to get nan astir usage retired of their gift, and you deliberation that could beryllium accomplished successful a different way." 

If a personification genuinely has nary usage for a gift, he aliases she should beryllium honorable but appreciative, said an etiquette expert.  (iStock)

Most gift-givers are apt to beryllium "more than willing" to accommodate this, she said.

Best of Tennessee concurred pinch that, noting that if an point aliases work is genuinely meant arsenic a gift for someone, "wouldn't we want [that person] to determine what to do pinch it?"

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She added, "Wouldn't we want them to person thing they enjoy? Wouldn't we want to get it right, moreover if it intends trying again?"

Once gifts are given, it is up to recipients to determine what they want to do pinch them.

It is important to retrieve that a gift is meant for nan personification receiving it – and that thing other attached to that gift intends that nan gift is really "a tool," said 1 etiquette expert. (iStock)

There mightiness moreover beryllium a metallic lining, she said. 

"Don't we want nan kind of relationships wherever group tin beryllium honorable pinch us, moreover erstwhile it whitethorn beryllium difficult to hear?" said Best. 

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